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Copyright By Lillian Smith Family Violence Foundation
143 Pelican Cove Dr. Rockwall TX 75087
214-256-4071 or email us at jj@lilliansmith.org
Strategies For Eliminating Family Violence Across Dallas-Ft. Worth
Family violence only occurs when an adult, teen or child chooses to hit, slap, kick, push, shove, scream at or threaten another household member or dating partner, rather than choosing to use words to rationally express how badly or upset he or she feels.
It also only occurs when an adult, teen or child allows someone to physically, verbally, emotionally or sexually harm them. Just as it takes two people to communicate, it also takes two people for abuse to occur.
Therefore, if we want to eliminate family violence, we need to teach adults, teens and children to use words instead of fists to communicate. We also need to teach adults, teens and children never to allow anyone to even attempt to harm them.
When anyone does use violence, we should initially attempt to rehab them, and punish habitual offenders in ways which may still rehab them.
We must also teach and empower everyone to be strong, stand up for themselves, and learn whom to call, if they need assistance. We should never allow anyone else to harm us.
The whole of DFW (and the nation) must agree that resorting to violence for any reason is absolutely unacceptable.
Challenges:
Domestic Violence
Millions of men and boys across America are getting away with hitting, beating, slapping, threatening, stalking, raping and even killing their wives, girlfriends, ex-wives and girlfriends, as well as other female members of their families.
Most do so because they are so afraid of being abandoned that they will do most anything to prevent someone from leaving them.
At the same time, millions of women and girls are allowing men and boys to get away with it. Most victims are plagued by low self-esteem and have been raised where family violence occurs.
The Lillian Smith Plan
Focus on prevention:
1) Educate the community, beginning with boys and girls, that hitting or screaming at someone else is never acceptable, except in some occcasional cases for self-defense.
2) Teach the community how to communicate their fears and frustrations using words. "When you do that, I feel ___________," or "When you say that, it make me feel sad."
3) Teach that if such a response does not stop the harmful words or behavior, then they should remove themselves from the situation and abusive person.
4) If the victim cannot do so, he/she should call family, friends, teachers, police, etc. for help.
Stop abusive men from harming or even threatening women and children.
Arrest and sentenceContact their employersContact them directly, pressuring them to stopPublicize their names on websites (just like sexual offenders)Prevent males from hurt, harm or even threaten
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Family violence is out of control across the U.S. It's time we change the way we deal with domestic violence in America. To date, the majority of our resources are devoted to sheltering victims and punishing abusers. The time has come to devote far more of our energy to preventing abuse and stopping batterers before they inflict damage or harm.
Parents in healthy families don't let their children get away with hitting each other. They take control and intervene, teaching children the proper skills they need to deal with their problems.
We need to use the same strategies on a widespread basis.
Family violence is out of control across the U.S. It's time we change the way we deal with domestic violence in America. To date, the majority of our resources are devoted to sheltering victims and punishing abusers. The time has come to devote far more of our energy to preventing abuse and stopping batterers before they inflict damage or harm.
Parents in healthy families don't let their children get away with hitting each other. They take control and intervene, teaching children the proper skills they need to deal with their problems.
We need to use the same strategies on a widespread basis.
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